Posts Tagged ‘moving through transitions’

Tears are the waters that purify transitional journeys and allow you to keep going. A strong statement, that.

Hide or hold them back at your peril.  Crying my tears is what allowed me to keep going through the orchestration and execution of a major move at age 72.  For all those who feel the need to cry, or release whatever emotion, for whatever reason, I suggest you take the time to do so. Particularly during times that are changing.  With a friend who knows how to listen.

I’m lucky to have such a friend . Early in the morning, several times a week, over a critical period of 6 weeks, Evelyn would receive my phone calls and answer affirmatively  to my query, “Do you have time to listen to my tears?”  And so, in the comfort of  her wonderful gift of permission and compassionate listening,  I would settle in to cry.    No matter that she was in Maryland, and I, in western Massachusetts.   I released the myriad and unidentified emotions that came along with deciding to downsize, relocate, pack, sort, toss, put the house on the market.  At the time I called it “releasing the whatevers.”  My mind didn’t need to know what was going on.  My body seemed to understand what to do.  After each appointment with my tears, I reclaimed clarity and purpose, at least for the next day or two.

Two months later, ensconced in a senior living community 12 miles away, the tough stuff is over.  In retrospect I see what a major life move it was on so many levels. While I couldn’t appreciate all the layers of change  that were occurring simultaneously during the two months of intense activity, what I could do was cry–– take time to cry––and cry.

It was time well invested.  I heartily recommend it.